Whether any relationship can last, there are traces from the beginning. So what kind of relationship can last, and what does a good relationship look like?
1. What kind of relationship can last long
1. When facing the other party, dare to say The truth
I like you, I just like you, and there is no shame in it; I will tell you when I miss you, and I will not be coy because I am worried about appearing proactive; when I feel that this relationship is no longer suitable for us When the time comes, I will also tell you frankly and then separate decently. This is honest enough for oneself and responsible enough for the other half.
2. When you do something for the other person, you will not be moved by yourself
Be able to clearly realize that giving to yourself will make the other person feel troubled and stressed, so You will choose a way to pay for the other person in a way that is comfortable for you and the other person, and you will not use your own efforts to morally kidnap the other person.
3. Be able to truly focus on your own relationship and not be disturbed by invalid information
You will not always hold on to “other people’s objects” or “my friend’s” "Object" to put pressure on the other party, as long as you can clearly understand that you can live your own life well. Although other people's relationships may seem glamorous, they may not be suitable for you.
4. Be able to feel at ease with the investment in this relationship and not be too obsessed with "settling accounts"
I like you, so everything I do for you is of my own free will , I don’t ask you for anything in return, and I won’t settle with you one by one for what we have given each other.
5. Realize that feelings are just a part of your life
Feelings are very important and It is true that you need to spend time and energy to maintain it, but you will not put your relationship as your first priority. You can realize that you actually still have a lot of things to do, and you also clearly understand that the most important thing to maintain a relationship is to first Live your life.
6. Dare to point out the other person’s mistakes and be willing to communicate with the other person
I fall in love to find a suitable person, so if there is friction or conflict between us, I will tell you very directly. I will not choose to suffer in silence because I am worried that we will quarrel. I can tell you anything directly.
7. I will not force the other party to change, but pay more attention to screening
You have been living like this for twenty or thirty years, and I will not force you to change.
As long as we can coordinate with each other, we will try our best to consider each other's feelings; if you really can't do it, I won't force you too hard; of course, I hope you can understand some things, IIt is also difficult to change.
8. Rather than pursuing the freshness and excitement of a relationship, I value the stability of the relationship and its long-term development.
The most important thing in a relationship is to be long-lasting and comfortable with each other, so I don’t I ask you to pay and sacrifice for me far beyond your ability, because if you do so, you will be wronged and it will not last.
2. What does a good relationship look like
1. Can focus on the "facts" "Rather than "emotions"
When everyone communicates, present facts and reason, and say what you have to say. "You don't love me at all" "You are just a scumbag"... These words are indeed very cruel and can be very venting, but they are of little use in solving actual problems.
2. Be able to balance the relationship between "future" and "present"
Be able to realize that two people need to start planning for actual future problems, but they will not be blind about the future. Anxiety. Two people can work hard for the future together, but they will also live the present and enjoy the present life in the process.
3. Be aware of one thing: your current behavior also has an impact on your partner
When you do something, you will not be so willful and start to realize what you are doing. Because it will have a great impact on your other half, you need to think carefully before taking action. Be more responsible for yourself, because when two people are together, being responsible for yourself is responsible for your other half.
4. Know that others do not owe you anything, and know that you should know how to give back to the other person
There is nothing in relationships Sayings such as "Because you are a boy, that's what you should do" and "Isn't that what girlfriends do"? Since the other person has paid for you, you must give back to the other person and thank the other person for their efforts.
5. No longer have an almost paranoid requirement to “understand me”
My parents watch me grow up, and sometimes they don’t even know what they are thinking. , so why should you expect your significant other to become a roundworm in your stomach? So when you encounter something, you will tell the other party directly instead of letting the other party guess.
6. Compared with falling in love when you are young, you are better able to learn to be alone
When you are young, you have to stick together to do everything, but when you mature, you will understand: everyone Everything needs to be tied together. In fact, sometimes it is a kind of torture for each other.
So now I can learn to enjoy my time alone and no longer force the other person to accompany me.
7. Learn to turn a blind eye to some insignificant issues
When you are in love, there will definitely be some small flaws.Questions, if these things do not involve principles, then there is no need to point them out every time.
